How do I talk to my mom about moving into a nursing facility?
My mom is becoming more feeble as she has macular degeneration and some cognitive decline. I've tried to talk to her about a nursing facility but she became so upset and cried. I know if I bring her home to my house we will argue. She is very stubborn and I really don't have a lot of space as I would have to move daughter's playroom to be used for my mom. She lives on social security that is extremely small so can't afford assisted living.
Start by asking your mom what she wants, such as whether she prefers to age in home with family or is comfortable with an assisted living facility. Your mom could be upset for many reasons and the discussion of moving to a facility may not be the root cause of her anger. You really need to have that heart to heart conversation with her.
As for affording the cost of an assisted living facility, there are states that have Medicaid Waiver programs which provide assisted living subsidies for low income individuals. You need to contact your state's Medicaid program for details. Here's a link for Maryland: http://mhcc.maryland.gov/consumerinfo/longtermcare/caregiverresources.aspx
There are other options as well, but I do not have all the specifics to your situation. You can contact me directly for help. Good luck.
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This is a hard situation, when Medicaid only pays for nursing homes and not a less restrictive assistant living community. You are not expected to bring her into your home, as so many people want to "guilt trip" you with this argument. You may not have the resources to help her, and could hurt her trying to move her in with you.
Contact your local agency on aging and see if there are any sliding scale or Medicaid paid home care and chore services. This way she may be able to stay a little longer in her home.
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